Pray for a good Husband..
I am going to get married at 21, as soon as I graduate. The sooner the better my parents say. And they have started searching too. Occasionally, they send me photographs of rich, attractive young men in USA, UK and Australia which I share with my friends at college, who of course can't hide their excitement!
My Dad can afford it, he's been doing well, accumulating quite a sum of money over the decade to get me the best possible groom.
Getting a good groom is very difficult if you don't have that kind of cash.
A cousin of mine working in London wants a crore! And I can't really guarantee he's a good groom either.
And let me tell you that you cannot underestimate the importance of money. Why, my other cousin, not so rich, had to to get married to an unemployed chap in India and guess what? He didn't come cheap either. 4 acres of prime irrigated land, that's what he cost.
But money's not everything. A husband must be nice and caring. We hear so many stories of women who spend long hours confined to home and housework, some are married to frauds, some others to incapable men and lots more to difficult men.
Another cousin of mine, (Indians have lots of cousins and big families!) had to get a divorce. When she got married, everyone thought she was very lucky but it was not to be.
The chap was working in Silicon valley and made a fortune, but she found out that he did not really need a wife, he only needed someone to cook and clean.
My mother says it's all in one's destiny. There's nothing one can do but accept, she says, but we must try our best to get the best possible groom. And predictably she adds, Look at me and your Dad!
I can only wait and see how my arranged marriage goes. If my destiny's good, I can study for a Masters, work hard and earn my money and freedom.
If it isn't, I just have to wait until we have a child and children need so much attention that I can hardly think about my own troubles then. And after they grow up, I'll be too old to bother about any of my ambitions.
If you have got really high ambitions that you are not sure are too realistic, I have a suggestion - have children, and off go your ambitions, and with them your troubles.
But before that I need to look at some more photographs and pass some interviews,
fingers crossed until then.
Wish me luck.
My Dad can afford it, he's been doing well, accumulating quite a sum of money over the decade to get me the best possible groom.
Getting a good groom is very difficult if you don't have that kind of cash.
A cousin of mine working in London wants a crore! And I can't really guarantee he's a good groom either.
And let me tell you that you cannot underestimate the importance of money. Why, my other cousin, not so rich, had to to get married to an unemployed chap in India and guess what? He didn't come cheap either. 4 acres of prime irrigated land, that's what he cost.
But money's not everything. A husband must be nice and caring. We hear so many stories of women who spend long hours confined to home and housework, some are married to frauds, some others to incapable men and lots more to difficult men.
Another cousin of mine, (Indians have lots of cousins and big families!) had to get a divorce. When she got married, everyone thought she was very lucky but it was not to be.
The chap was working in Silicon valley and made a fortune, but she found out that he did not really need a wife, he only needed someone to cook and clean.
My mother says it's all in one's destiny. There's nothing one can do but accept, she says, but we must try our best to get the best possible groom. And predictably she adds, Look at me and your Dad!
I can only wait and see how my arranged marriage goes. If my destiny's good, I can study for a Masters, work hard and earn my money and freedom.
If it isn't, I just have to wait until we have a child and children need so much attention that I can hardly think about my own troubles then. And after they grow up, I'll be too old to bother about any of my ambitions.
If you have got really high ambitions that you are not sure are too realistic, I have a suggestion - have children, and off go your ambitions, and with them your troubles.
But before that I need to look at some more photographs and pass some interviews,
fingers crossed until then.
Wish me luck.
posted by Mohanakrishna C at 4:18 PM
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