The year 21 fear.

They say not much can change a man after he finishes his first 21 years - of largely aimless living.
And it makes a lot of sense as well, for people hardly seem to change - our politicians don't, our government servants don't, closer home, neither do orthodox grandparents or pedantic teachers.

If you think you're someone who embraces change, always changing for the better - that statement must cause some worry.
For it says, the basis, the very fundamentals that determine how you think and act, will be set in concrete by the time you finish twenty-one. And you'll need to have a 'shattering' experience that will break through the concrete if you really need to redefine your fundamentals.
Say you are in your thirties, each time you think you're embracing change, you are really not!
For how you fundamentally act and think has already been determined, and you're merely acting out a slightly unconventional reaction each time you think you're embracing radical change.

That brings us to my primary concern, what if I need to radically overhaul myself sometime later in my life? And they tell me that 21 years of work can't really be undone in a few months or even years!
Even more frightening is the prospect of not being able to change even when you want to, and being deceived into thinking you've changed when you really haven't.

I am pretty sure the number 21 isn't really special, it is hopefully something a bit bigger.(That should give us more time!) All said and done, the early twenties inevitably determine how we form our notions on important determinants of a good living - human relationships, freedom, money and religion among others.

I would rather be prone to change now and be moulded just right sooner, than stay in my shell and be too hard to change later anyway.